Joe and I recently lost a young friend. It was very sudden and tragic. We saw him on and off over the last ten years or so. We weren’t close, he was a childhood friend of our close friends…he was one those people you might call eccentric. He lived life on his own terms.
It meant a lot to us to go to the funeral if even to be there as support. But, the truth is, we really liked him. He was memorable. The reason for our feelings will not surprise you…it’s what each one of us craves yet rarely gets…have you guessed?! He listened. He would sit down and with his grin, asked how you were and he meant it. He was genuinely interested. You mattered to him. You just plain mattered. For that moment he was totally into your answer. You always walked away feeling better about yourself.
I think most of us, in a social setting, are used to the eye wander…all of a sudden the person who asked you how did your “blank” go, is looking behind you at something else. Like they’re waiting for someone more interesting to come through the door.
So, at this point in my story, it is important that you understand that I’m not being cynical. I’m pointing out how insecure we all are about our own existence on earth. That we couldn’t possibly have anything interesting to say to anyone. If you’ve rejected what I’ve just said…think…we measure our worth by people’s reaction to us.
This is not the road to happiness…we can’t live like that. We are not on this planet to be judged by others for being ourselves. In my younger years I pretended to be something I wasn’t so I could fit in. Looking to others for what I should do. That is youth and fear. But, we matter, all of us. If every single person began to use the unique gifts they were given, we would be on that road to happy and contented. Personally, I was never taught how to find myself as a child. My brother and I were to be seen and not heard. No one asked us what we thought about anything. Vacations outings…adults made those plans for us. Then out in the world we went, feeling like we’ve been scrubbed clean of the uniqueness we once had.
So, you’re probably thinking, I have digressed, but all of what I have said matters and relates to the lost of our friend. Because I want you to see that there are sign posts all around if you choose to see them…he was one of those sign posts. I saw it as plain as day…after he was gone. He gave the gift of making you feel like an individual, that you mattered. Immensely. And it’s absolutely true. The fate of the world as we know it, depends on us realizing this truth.
We are supposed to be here on this planet, right now. Every last one of us. Out of every DNA combination that could have been, ours made the cut. To just exist living a life because we deem it acceptable, ruins more than one precious life. All the loved ones around us are cheated. They aren’t getting the full package. The all you can be package.
My childhood experiences tell me this…it is not fun to be around a person who is shutdown, going through the motions of life. Because if we’re not living who we really are, that’s exactly what we are doing. Living a maudlin existence. So, we think, that means the life we want must be out there somewhere. But it’s not so we drink more wine or run around being thrill seekers. It’s the feeling of, ‘there must be more than this”.
There is way more and it happens to be everything we always wanted…an exiting life and it’s waiting inside us already. Doing what we love and are passionate about is the adventure. It’s not out there in the far reaches of a place no one’s ever been. It’s not a secret. It’s the answer to all the questions. All the signposts are in place, we just have to be aware they exist. Everyday, sit quietly without distraction and ask the question, ” Please, tell me, what do I need to know?”.or, “what do I need to know about blank?”
As you go through your day look for the signposts that support you. The universe is conspiring in your favor. The signs are everywhere…guiding you to the next step in your personal journey to happiness and satisfaction. Because you matter…everything matters. Remember it daily and believe it if you don’t already. It is far too easy to get distracted by what the outside world thinks of us…letting their opinion matter thus causing a retreat of the soul back to its hiding place. This isn’t new information, you may already know these things…but do you believe it?
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