If you are human, you have made at least a few mistakes. That sounds like a ‘well, duh’ statement, but mistakes seem to be looked down on, snubbed and basically I believe they aren’t receiving the kudos they deserve.
Mistakes serve as very important learning tools. Without mistakes, where would we be?! I myself, excel at mistakes. Make them all the time. One of my favorites to get called out for is incorrect spelling. When I am creating, brainstorming or must get an idea out quickly on paper so I don’t forget…spelling isn’t a priority. It isn’t really a priority unless I deem it so. Can you see the spelling mistake on this artwork?
It was pointed out to me and as I looked at the word, I realized that I have never in memory, misspelled this word to this absurd of a level. It’s like I just learned that word the other day. I became fascinated with the idea that at the time I was in a creative state and that state chose spelling as a lower priority. Lots of decisions needed to be made, but for whatever reason, spelling wasn’t one of them. At first, I thought about covering it and rewriting it correctly. But, I just can’t do it…yet. I don’t even know if this piece is finished so it’s not like it would be a hardship to fix it.
So, here’s the thing…if you’re not making mistakes, you’re not doing anything, you’re not living. You are alive and existing but so is Protozoa. We can only use 10% of our brain on a good day so aren’t humans by design, suppose to fuck up? When I spilled that glass of milk At 3, that should have been accepted as par for the course, but someone always gets pissed off. Three year olds shouldn’t be so vulnerable and clumsy…said no one ever.
In my mind, I have all my mistakes loosely categorized…there are happy one’s, the kind that let you know what you do not want…there are the ones that almost, or actually do cause bodily harm and the ones that bring us to our knees with embarrassment because you were a huge jerk to someone or just a huge jerk in general.
What about giving them kudos? Everytime you make a mistake, and are lucky enough to get a do-over, (yeah, don’t forget that part) make a mental note. Because even though you will make a million more make sure each one is different. I find it very difficult to have empathy for those that live everyday like it’s Groundhog’s Day. Sometimes you have to walk away and not look back. We can’t manipulate things to suit us…things just are. Don’t want to make the mistake of trying to change anything outside of yourself.
This leads me to the part of mistakes that make some of them soooo hard to handle. The after-shame-and-regret feelings. This is the whole reason I’m writing this blog post…this sentence. Because if you can see your mistakes as wisdom gathering tools, then you will also see that at the moment in time the mistake was made you did the best you could with the information you had. Oh sure, it’s easy to feeling regret and shame about it now…because you learned not to do that crap anymore. Right? Being all hard on your past self…how stupid why did I do that? You see my point.
I know I haven’t invented the wheel with this whole mistake thing, but maybe at this very moment you’re reading this, something clicks. Repackaged material by Phaedra! I’m kidding but I’m not. It is how we say and write things, how we tell our stories that you either get or you don’t. If anything my goal is give relief from being so very hard on ourselves.
Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before…be kind to yourself there’s plenty out there to be unkind…so relax and be proud of the wisdom you have gleaned thus far.